THE HELD SELF™ · HEALING · SOVEREIGNTY · CASE STUDIES
Allowing a Healing
Is subconscious or conscious resistance blocking yours?
— Aniel Lia Love
All healing is self healing. That is not a disclaimer — it is the operating premise of everything I do. No matter what a facilitator brings to a session, if the person receiving is not in an allowing and accepting space, the work cannot land. Two cases came to the foreground recently that illustrate this truth from opposite directions — and what they taught is worth sharing.
Case One — Subconscious Resistance.
While working in Hilo one afternoon, a man walked in off the street. He had been wandering, looking for help, and asked if I did massage therapy. I said no and quickly outlined what I actually do. He was curious enough to stay for a thirty-minute consult.
As the consult unfolded, he revealed he was a surgeon visiting from the mainland. He had not been feeling well for quite some time — and one look at his face confirmed it. Ashen complexion, dark circles under his eyes, a countenance of someone who had exhausted their options. He said nothing within the medical community had helped. The pharmaceuticals were not working.
As I explained the work — frequency-based, field-level, nothing that maps to the medical model — he became visibly bewildered. I agreed with him that it would not be logical to a classically trained medical mind. At the end of the consult he said he still did not understand how any of it worked. I told him that was fine. The only question that mattered was: will you allow it? Will you let something work on you without needing to understand the mechanism first?
He said he was willing to try. He also said he might need help in the allowing.
Before any session begins I ask two questions. The first: do you desire to heal? This can seem repetitive — sometimes I ask it more than once — but there is a purpose. Saying it out loud triggers other layers of consciousness to cooperate. It gives the entirety of our being, which is multi-dimensional, permission to participate. When I sense resistance, I ask it several more times to loosen what is holding.
The second question: will you allow these healing energies into your field? Same purpose. It opens the door wider.
With the doctor, the start was shaky. On a conscious level he was willing. But there were subconscious influences in active resistance — layers that required encouragement before they would let go. Once that resolved, something shifted. He got the hang of it. He began allowing and releasing with everything he had, as if some part of him knew his life depended on it. Given that he had exhausted every other option, perhaps it did.
I made a decision not to describe the process out loud as I usually do. Normally I narrate what is being cleared so the client can follow. In this case I felt that would stifle him — that his medically trained mind would engage and try to analyze rather than receive. In this instance, not knowing was a gift. All he wanted was to feel better. He was throwing caution to the wind and doing something that required real courage. There was no sense in getting in the way of that.
Approximately two days later he came back. He looked completely different. The dark circles were gone. His face was clear, bright, happy. He said he felt better than he had in a very long time — and that he still did not understand what had happened. He also said he could not share this experience with his colleagues. It would not be well received and would have adverse professional consequences. We did not exchange contact information — even that felt like more connection than his world would allow.
He was doing exactly what he needed to do to remain in alignment with his own sacred journey. Something deep inside this man had compelled him forward, step by step, into a situation completely outside his comfort zone. He placed his trust in a complete stranger. The exquisite movement of that — and the trust he extended — were genuinely humbling.
Case Two — Conscious Resistance.
Some time later I facilitated a group healing workshop. At the start I explained the work — how frequency-based clearing functions, what the process looks like, what participants could do to gain maximum benefit. I also made it clear that allowing and accepting are prerequisites. The people who come to these workshops generally understand the concepts. The information is not foreign to them.
I asked the two questions, as always, to put everyone in a healing frame of mind. Then we began.
Shortly after starting I noticed one woman in strong resistance. I went quietly to her and whispered some guidance that might help. She crossed her arms. She was having none of it.
Even though she had said yes to both questions — do you wish to heal, will you allow these energies into your field — she was consciously holding the door closed. This is always completely fine with me. Everyone heals in their own time in their own way and how another chooses to go about that is not my business to direct. When someone employs me I will do everything in my capacity to support their process. If they choose to limit or stop it, my efforts will mirror that choice.
As the session continued I noticed her loosening slightly — allowing a small portion in, even while remaining largely resistant. She was not receiving what the others were receiving. But she was doing the absolute best she could. And in retrospect, the fact that she got herself to the workshop at all was its own kind of testament. Being there was a significant step.
Some weeks later she reached out. She was physically unwell and wanted to know if I could help. We discussed her symptoms and it seemed there were things that could be addressed energetically. But before moving forward we needed to have what I privately call The Talk.
The Talk was about her conscious resistance — what she had been actively not doing, which was allowing the work in. We had to name it directly before any progress was possible.
We met, had The Talk, and began. Even then it was not smooth. We had to stop on several occasions, reset, and start again. But gradually she loosened. And then something shifted — she got with it, really got with it, and the session moved.
When we finished she said this had been a real eye-opener. She had actually felt the resistance — felt it as a physical, tangible thing — and then felt herself letting it go. She understood, for the first time at a felt level rather than an intellectual one, why the allowing matters. She recalled how little she had permitted during the group workshop. She said she finally got it. It was a significant shift — the kind that changes how a person moves through the rest of their healing.
What these two taught.
These two cases are almost perfect opposites.
In the first, a person understood nothing about the work and was in subconscious resistance. Once that resistance was addressed, there was full allowing — and a complete result. In the second, a person understood everything about the work, was in conscious active resistance throughout, and received only a fraction of what was available — until later, when the allowing finally came.
Understanding is not the prerequisite. Allowing is.
You do not need to know how this works in order to receive it. What you need is the willingness to let it in. Someone can work with you with everything they have — but if you are not receptive, it will not move. That is not a failure of the work. It is the nature of healing itself.
The facilitator holds the space.
You hold the key.
If you are curious about whether something in your field may be creating resistance you are not even aware of — that is exactly what the Mainframe Echo Diagnostic™ is designed to identify. A private, no-commitment assessment that maps what is operating in your system. Clarity before anything else.
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